<aside> 💭 We must be aware of talents and traits we possess that do not fit our concept of ourselves (rejected self-traits), and integrate them. Only then can we truly receive, give, and know with our minds and hearts

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<aside> 💭 Rejected self-trait may be projected onto others via adoration / criticism. The impact of rejected self-trait is self-hatred.

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<aside> 💭 There are two types of rejected self-traits:

Disowned traits — Unconscious impulses and traits that you and others considered to be positive. For example, you don’t think you are creative.

Denied traits — Unconscious impulses and traits that you and others considered to be negative. For example, you don’t think you are critical.

****Since these traits are unconscious to you, the way you know whether a trait has been rejected (disowned or denied) is when more than one person has reported to you AND that you have a strong emotional reaction to it

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Discover rejected aspects of yourself

• STEP 1: List all the positive adjectives in the table below that describes your caretakers, partner, ex-partners, the traits you adore or admire in any opposite-sex persons, and the traits you adore or admire in any person
• STEP 2: List all the negative adjectives in the table below that describes your caretakers, partner, ex-partners, the traits you dislike or despise in any opposite-sex persons, and the traits you dislike or despise in any person
• STEP 3: Compile the final list of your character traits

Personal Growth Plan

• STEP 4: For both positive and negative, pick 5 traits that have the ranking closest to one and manually put them into the following categories (total of 10 traits; 5 positives and 5 negatives). These are the traits that you must own in order to become whole and make significant changes that will improve your relationship with others.
• STEP 5: Identify the potential traits and behavioural expressions for each of the positive trait
• STEP 6: Identify the potential traits and behavioural expressions for each of the negative trait
• Personal Growth Plan Database (DON’T DELETE)